Why You Sometimes Can Ignore Your Child’s Feelings and NOT Feel Guilty

As parents, we tend to fret over our children’s feelings. Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they are part of our nature. Feelings typically tend to serve the purpose of communicating what we need and what we want. When your children present you with their feelings, it is important to make a distinction between a […]

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Boy’s Will Be Boy’s

“Boys will be boys – nothin’ but trouble” is an old saying that was used in a song by the Miami Sound Machine. It makes it sound as if boys will be bad because they are boys. It almost appears that it is bad to be a boy. I wonder what God was thinking in […]

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Effective Parents Act Like They know What They Are Doing

I’ve said it before, but it cannot be said often enough: The discipline of a child is not accomplished by manipulating reward and punishment.Yes, a child needs to understand that behavior results in consequences, but that understanding alone is not sufficient to grow a well-behaved, well-mannered child.Besides, whereas proper consequences will virtually guarantee proper behavior […]

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The Children-Need-Lots-Of- Attention Myth

One of the more difficult facts for today’s parents, as a rule, to wrap their heads around is the…I’ll say it again, with emphasis…FACT that children do not need (as a general rule) a lot of attention. I was there, working as a journeyman psychologist in a community mental health center, when the children-need-lots-of-attention myth […]

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Out With ‘Parenting,’ in With Child-Rearing

There is “parenting” and then there is bringing up, rearing, or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes, short- and long-term, to all concerned, meaning every single one of us. Parenting is what the vast majority of American parents have been doing since the early 1970s. It is constituted of […]

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America Needs A Parenting Retro- Revolution

I was honored to be a guest on my good friend Dennis Prager’s syndicated radio program recently and as anyone who is familiar with my point-of-view on parenting matters will appreciate, much of the conversation centered on the need for children to obey. Children should obey, I maintain, because – and solid research confirms common […]

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