Effective Parents Act Like They know What They Are Doing

I’ve said it before, but it cannot be said often enough: The discipline of a child is not accomplished by manipulating reward and punishment.Yes, a child needs to understand that behavior results in consequences, but that understanding alone is not sufficient to grow a well-behaved, well-mannered child.Besides, whereas proper consequences will virtually guarantee proper behavior […]

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The Children-Need-Lots-Of- Attention Myth

One of the more difficult facts for today’s parents, as a rule, to wrap their heads around is the…I’ll say it again, with emphasis…FACT that children do not need (as a general rule) a lot of attention. I was there, working as a journeyman psychologist in a community mental health center, when the children-need-lots-of-attention myth […]

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Feelings: To Express or Not to Express?

Feelings are a wild card. On the one hand, the ability to experience deep emotion is one of the things that defines us as human. On the other, feelings can be and often are destructive to relationships and even to self. Like thoughts and behavior, feelings begin in chaos (check out the toddler), and like […]

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Out With ‘Parenting,’ in With Child-Rearing

There is “parenting” and then there is bringing up, rearing, or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes, short- and long-term, to all concerned, meaning every single one of us. Parenting is what the vast majority of American parents have been doing since the early 1970s. It is constituted of […]

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America Needs A Parenting Retro- Revolution

I was honored to be a guest on my good friend Dennis Prager’s syndicated radio program recently and as anyone who is familiar with my point-of-view on parenting matters will appreciate, much of the conversation centered on the need for children to obey. Children should obey, I maintain, because – and solid research confirms common […]

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