Foundation to Parenting Begins With Marriage

In an opinion piece recently featured on FoxNews.com., Jonathan Pokluda explicates his Ten Habits of Extraordinary Parents. Pokluda, a teaching pastor at a mega-church in Texas, and his wife are in the midst of what he terms “the parenting experiment” with three young children. In the introduction to his Ten Habits, Pokluda says that according to […]

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The Recipe for a ‘Happy Child’ is a Simple One

I recently enjoyed the privilege of seeing and hearing radio talk-show host Dennis Prager speak on the topic of happiness. He only spoke for twenty minutes, but said more in that short span than most talk-show people are able to say in two hours.   He was talking to an audience about how to be a […]

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Effective Parents Act Like They know What They Are Doing

I’ve said it before, but it cannot be said often enough: The discipline of a child is not accomplished by manipulating reward and punishment.Yes, a child needs to understand that behavior results in consequences, but that understanding alone is not sufficient to grow a well-behaved, well-mannered child.Besides, whereas proper consequences will virtually guarantee proper behavior […]

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Parenting Hard; Raising Children Is Not

JOHN HAS DEVELOPED A NEW TALK! For the past ten years or so, John’s primary talk has been titled “Parenting with Love and Leadership.” It’s been hugely well-received and John will continue to do it upon request, but he’s recently developed a brand-new talk titled “Parenting Is Hard; Raising Children Is Not!” – a talk […]

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Let Your School-Aged Kids Dress Themselves

“So, anyway, after they take showers I lay out their school clothes for the next day. And then….” “Hold on right there,” “How old are your girls again?” “Um, they’re seven and five,” she answered, being the thirty-something mother of the girls in question. “Why?” “I guess I need you to explain to me why […]

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The Children-Need-Lots-Of- Attention Myth

One of the more difficult facts for today’s parents, as a rule, to wrap their heads around is the…I’ll say it again, with emphasis…FACT that children do not need (as a general rule) a lot of attention. I was there, working as a journeyman psychologist in a community mental health center, when the children-need-lots-of-attention myth […]

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More Musings Over Morning Coffee

FROM THE TRUTH VS. “YOUR TRUTH” DEPARTMENT: The former is grounded in verifiable facts; the latter is the deceptive product of emotion. The latter, unfortunately, is usually represented by the loudest, most agitated mob. FROM THE “FOR EXAMPLE” DEPARTMENT: Every so often, the issue of spanking rears its always ugly head and begins snapping at […]

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The Realities of Parenting

PARENTING REALITY, PART ONE: It is all but inevitable that after rattling off a list of provocative, sociopathic stuff his or her child is doing and usually has been doing for quite some time, a parent will say, “But he’s a really good kid.” How’s that? How is it that a child who is belligerently […]

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Feelings: To Express or Not to Express?

Feelings are a wild card. On the one hand, the ability to experience deep emotion is one of the things that defines us as human. On the other, feelings can be and often are destructive to relationships and even to self. Like thoughts and behavior, feelings begin in chaos (check out the toddler), and like […]

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Out With ‘Parenting,’ in With Child-Rearing

There is “parenting” and then there is bringing up, rearing, or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes, short- and long-term, to all concerned, meaning every single one of us. Parenting is what the vast majority of American parents have been doing since the early 1970s. It is constituted of […]

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